Southwest Airlines has some of the best advertisements! One of my favorites (and one of the funniest ever) is their Wanna Get Away? campaign. You've probably seen one of these ads and laughed at it yourself. But, in case you haven't, the premise is this. Someone in the ad does something really stupid and/or embarrassing, to which the announcer for the ad acknowledges (along with everyone else watching the ad) that the only thing that person can/should do is get away from that situation. Southwest Airlines just happens to provide a lot of places for you to get away to. It is really an effective campaign (as well as extremely humorous). We've all been there...
Lately I have been thinking a lot about wanting to get away. As a matter of fact, my sweet wife and I did get away last weekend for a wonderful "Weekend to Remember" in Little Rock, Arkansas. It was wonderful! Really wonderful!
But, what is it about a lot of us that we sometimes persistently feel the need to get away? What are we trying to get away from, and why?
Well, just like in the advertisements, sometimes we have done something really stupid and/or embarrassing and we think that getting away is the only answer to our situation. Just pack it up, move out of (or away from) the situation and start all over again. Sometimes it is just too painful and humiliating to stay in that particular situation and deal with the consequences and/or comments people make regarding our stupid and/or embarrassing mistake. Like I said earlier, if we are honest with each other, we've all been there...
Lately I've had the urge/idea to get away from our country. There are so many things going on in the politics/government of this land that I don't agree with and really don't like. I can't begin to tell you how much I don't like some of these things! So, it seems very logical to me to want to get away. But, where am I going to get away to? There have even been urges to get away from our city, our neighborhood, and/or our house. Sometimes it seems like starting all over with a clean slate would solve a lot of problems. But, would it really?
Since I am going to hit the ripe old age of double nickels (55) this September, I have also been giving a lot of thought to getting away from my job/career (and some of the incredible responsibilities that go along with that job/career). How much longer am I supposed to do this anyway? How much longer do I work at this job/career that I've been so fortunate to enjoy for more than 31 years? What's the next thing on the horizon for me from a job/career standpoint? Somedays I really, really enjoy my job/career. And then there are other days when I really want to get away.
Sadly, there are even some days (and I really hate to admit it, but I'm just being painfully honest here) when I want to get away from some of the people and relationships in my life. Maybe it is the people that I work with who don't seem to understand me or who are moving away from me? Or maybe it is some of my friendships that are different now and I am just ready to move on to someone/something new? That is when I scare myself about wanting to get away.
In pondering this subject the last couple of days leading up to writing this blog, I have narrowed it down to the following three things I REALLY want to get away from.
First, I want to get away from being a quitter when it comes to our country, our city, our neighborhood and even our house. What good does quitting do? Would anything get better if I quit? Who is going to turn our country and city and neighborhood around if not me? Why would I even consider abandoning my part in all of this? So what if it requires a lot more work and a lot more hassle and a lot more prayer? I need to hang in there and influence our future in a positive and godly way. That is what I am called to do as a Christ follower.
Second, I want to get away from fantasizing about leaving a terrific job/career (and the responsibilities that go with it). I have been so blessed by my job/career for many years. Until I am called to the next thing, why not be faithful to the situation God currently has me in? There is still a lot more work to be done where I am. Who's going to do that work if I check out and abandon my post? I need to give it my best effort and make a difference where I am until God moves me to that next place, wherever that may be.
Third, I want to get away from a selfishness/self-centeredness that causes me to even think about leaving certain friendships/relationships. I believe that God brings certain people my way for an express purpose, and He put me in this specific family for His kingdom and His purposes. Who am I to even consider abandoning that just because it is at times difficult, uncomfortable, challenging and perhaps even unpleasant? God is sovereign. He knows just where I am and who I am with. He has me here in these relationships and this family for His well-defined purposes. Why not live into those purposes so that He can take me to the next assignments He has planned in advance for me?
What about you? Are there times when you wanna get away, too? In spite of what the Southwest Airlines ads say, just a quick get away to another city/country doesn't solve anything. Sometimes the best thing you can do when you find yourself in a situation where you wanna get away is to look up and ask God, "What are you expecting me to do in the place You have placed me right now?" Following His plan for your life is much more satisfying and long-lasting than a weekend or month long escape from your current situation.
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Taking Credit
A good friend challenged me this week for not taking credit for something she felt I deserved recognition for. Then this morning, we discussed the whole issue even further. Consequently, this post...
How do you respond when someone else takes credit for something you feel you deserve credit for? How do you react when someone takes credit for something you are pretty sure they really didn't have much involvement in?
Falsely taking credit seems to happen in a lot of places these days, doesn't it? The most prevalent might be in politics and our workplaces. But, this same problem occurs in several other places as well. For example, it happens in our homes, and in our friendships, and sadly, even in our churches.
Where's the balance? Are we banned then from taking credit for something? Is there an appropriate time and place for taking credit, almost fighting for the rights to that credit? Sure.
For example, my son Andy is in sales. A portion of his income is determined by the actual sales that he gets credit for. He should take credit for the sales that he is primarily responsible for bringing in to his company. Also, if you have genuinely written or composed something, you should be recognized and take credit for what you have uniquely developed.
Those are the easy ones.
But, what about when you are part of a much larger team, and the whole team accomplishes something noteworthy? How much credit do you deserve then? What happens when the whole team gets recognition and you are specifically left off of the list of contributors? Kind of makes you mad, doesn't it? But, should it?
I am reminded of a saying that's been around awhile. I have quoted this phrase many times over the years. It goes something like this: "If you have to ask for respect, you really don't deserve it." In other words, if you have done something noteworthy, and have given it your best effort, try to let that be enough. Don't worry about taking credit (or getting respect) for what you've done. If you really deserve it, at some point in time it will be yours. Just wait.
In our human condition, that is so hard to do, however. We want the credit we deserve, and we want it now!
This weekend, if you are like me you are trying to focus your time, attention and "spirit" on the death and resurrection of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
He came so that we might know how to live. He died so that our sins would be forgiven. He rose from the dead so that we might have eternal life. He lives to guide us in what we need to do to honor and serve Him. He deserves all the credit.
Read the following verses from an old hymn written by Lowell Mason back in 1824:
"When I survey the wondrous cross
On which the Prince of Glory died,
My richest gain I count but loss,
And pour contempt on all my pride.
Forbid it, Lord, that I should boast,
Save in the death of Christ my God.
All the vain things that charm me most,
I sacrifice them to His blood.
See from His head, His hands, His feet,
Sorrow and love flow mingled down:
Did e'er such love and sorrow meet,
Or thorns compose so rich a crown?
Were the whole realm of nature mine,
That were a present far too small;
Love so amazing, so divine,
Demands my soul, my life, my all."
After that, fussing about taking credit seems pretty unimportant, doesn't it?
How do you respond when someone else takes credit for something you feel you deserve credit for? How do you react when someone takes credit for something you are pretty sure they really didn't have much involvement in?
Falsely taking credit seems to happen in a lot of places these days, doesn't it? The most prevalent might be in politics and our workplaces. But, this same problem occurs in several other places as well. For example, it happens in our homes, and in our friendships, and sadly, even in our churches.
Where's the balance? Are we banned then from taking credit for something? Is there an appropriate time and place for taking credit, almost fighting for the rights to that credit? Sure.
For example, my son Andy is in sales. A portion of his income is determined by the actual sales that he gets credit for. He should take credit for the sales that he is primarily responsible for bringing in to his company. Also, if you have genuinely written or composed something, you should be recognized and take credit for what you have uniquely developed.
Those are the easy ones.
But, what about when you are part of a much larger team, and the whole team accomplishes something noteworthy? How much credit do you deserve then? What happens when the whole team gets recognition and you are specifically left off of the list of contributors? Kind of makes you mad, doesn't it? But, should it?
I am reminded of a saying that's been around awhile. I have quoted this phrase many times over the years. It goes something like this: "If you have to ask for respect, you really don't deserve it." In other words, if you have done something noteworthy, and have given it your best effort, try to let that be enough. Don't worry about taking credit (or getting respect) for what you've done. If you really deserve it, at some point in time it will be yours. Just wait.
In our human condition, that is so hard to do, however. We want the credit we deserve, and we want it now!
This weekend, if you are like me you are trying to focus your time, attention and "spirit" on the death and resurrection of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
He came so that we might know how to live. He died so that our sins would be forgiven. He rose from the dead so that we might have eternal life. He lives to guide us in what we need to do to honor and serve Him. He deserves all the credit.
Read the following verses from an old hymn written by Lowell Mason back in 1824:
"When I survey the wondrous cross
On which the Prince of Glory died,
My richest gain I count but loss,
And pour contempt on all my pride.
Forbid it, Lord, that I should boast,
Save in the death of Christ my God.
All the vain things that charm me most,
I sacrifice them to His blood.
See from His head, His hands, His feet,
Sorrow and love flow mingled down:
Did e'er such love and sorrow meet,
Or thorns compose so rich a crown?
Were the whole realm of nature mine,
That were a present far too small;
Love so amazing, so divine,
Demands my soul, my life, my all."
After that, fussing about taking credit seems pretty unimportant, doesn't it?
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Thank You, Erma Bombeck (and Katie, too!)
It was going to be a great Saturday for me to work in the yard, do some landscaping and catch up on some projects around the house. You see, the previous weekend had been the wedding of our son, Peter, and his lovely bride, Kristen, and a lot of things just had to wait until that wonderful event was over. Also, my fantastic wife, Ellen, was out-of-town sight-seeing in Arizona with our friend, Karin (from Denmark; here for the wedding). It would just be Nathan and me at home. We could get a lot done. I could get some much needed exercise and maybe sweat off some of the unwanted weight that had shown up on the scale recently. It was going to be perfect!
Then my incredible daughter, Katie, e-mailed Nathan, Andy and me and asked us to be spontaneous. "Since everyone else in the family is out-of-town, how about if the rest of of us do something crazy fun out-of-town, too?" You see, Peter and Kristen were still on their honeymoon, Andy's wonderful girlfriend, Annie, was in New York City conducting a tour.
At first my gut reaction was "I have yard work to do. You guys go on ahead without me and have fun." Then, the voice of Erma Bombeck spoke to me and said, "Really? Are you sure that's the response you really want to give to your precious daughter?"
By now, some of you reading this are asking, "Who in the world is Erma Bombeck?" Erma Bombeck was an American humorist who wrote a syndicated newspaper column from the mid 60's to the mid 90's. Unfortunately, she contracted a kidney disease in 1996 and died following an unsuccessful kidney transplant. But, one of the famous writings she penned after learning that she was sick was "If I Had My Life To Live Over." In this piece (which you can find on Google, by the way), she voices some of the things that probably all of us have done at one time or another, but maybe lived to regret? She closed with this:
"But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute... look at it and really see it ... live it...and never give it back."
Well, that's why I want to thank Erma Bombeck! Because yesterday I think I seized every minute, looked at it, really saw it, lived it, and I'm never giving it back! Thank you, Katie! Thank you, Southwest Airlines! Thank you, Andy! Thank you, Nathan! And thank you, Phoebe, for meeting us in St. Louis!
It was CRAZY from the beginning! The four of us met at 8 a.m. at Andy's apartment. We then drove to Love Field (where Katie works and has fantastic "privileges" as a Southwest Airlines employee for non-rev travel), parked the car, and caught a direct flight to St. Louis. Now I travel for a living (not really, but there are times when it seems like it!). It was so weird for me to not have anything but a newspaper with me on the flight! No briefcase, no laptop, no concerns about the meeting I was about to attend, etc. Yes!
When we landed in St. Louis, we bought day passes on their Metro Rail and embarked on our St. Louis adventure. First stop? My old stomping grounds - University City, Missouri! Yes! When I graduated from college, this is where I lived and worked. We went to one of the places I remembered from the late 70's for lunch - Blueberry Hill - and my niece, Phoebe, met us there! Yes! Did I tell you that we were all wearing matching t-shirts (Andy's idea, sort of) - the Ellwood Pancake Breakfast ones we had printed last year for our 30th annual New Year's Day feed? Phoebe got one, too. It was great!
After lunch we walked a mile or so to the next train stop and just missed that train heading to the St. Louis Arch. Oh well. Another one was coming in 15-20 minutes. But, that meant that our tickets to the 1:30 p.m. boat cruise would be compromised. Rats! So, thanks again to my resourceful daughter, Katie, we called and got the tickets changed to the 3:00 p.m. cruise on the Tom Sawyer instead. Yes!
When we got to the Arch, there were over 200 people there having a pillow fight! Ha. It was CRAZY! We went to the river, the 1840's cathedral there, and just lounged around awhile enjoying the sweetness of the moment under the Arch. Then we got on the boat and took a one-hour cruise on the Mississippi. I got really sunburned! I loved every minute of it.
Did I tell you that our flight back was at 4:40 p.m. and we didn't step off the boat until 4 o'clock? Not to worry. Once again, my sweet daughter, Katie, got on her cell phone and determined that we could probably go stand-by on the 5:15 flight. We were still about 45 minutes from the airport.
After a great train ride with a stop to part ways with Phoebe and say good-bye, after which she called out, "See you next weekend?" (since she had been to Texas the weekend before for the wedding!), we headed for the airport.
Now, I mean to tell you, I have made mad dashes to catch planes in my lifetime, but none quite as CRAZY as this one. We stepped off the train at 5 o'clock and RAN!!! We made the 5:15 flight by continuing to run and by not putting our shoes on after going through Security, and were taxi-ing out to the runway at 5:13 p.m. Yes!
Is that crazy or what? Did we have a great time? You bet. Did it cost me a Saturday working in the yard and around the house? Yeah. Was it worth it? Heck, yeah!
Thank You, Erma Bombeck (and Katie, too!). I am so grateful to God for spontaneity and fun with family! If I had my life to live over, I'd do it all again. You can do yardwork, exercise, lose weight, and things around the house anytime. But, a CRAZY trip to St. Louis for the day may only come along once in your life...
Then my incredible daughter, Katie, e-mailed Nathan, Andy and me and asked us to be spontaneous. "Since everyone else in the family is out-of-town, how about if the rest of of us do something crazy fun out-of-town, too?" You see, Peter and Kristen were still on their honeymoon, Andy's wonderful girlfriend, Annie, was in New York City conducting a tour.
At first my gut reaction was "I have yard work to do. You guys go on ahead without me and have fun." Then, the voice of Erma Bombeck spoke to me and said, "Really? Are you sure that's the response you really want to give to your precious daughter?"
By now, some of you reading this are asking, "Who in the world is Erma Bombeck?" Erma Bombeck was an American humorist who wrote a syndicated newspaper column from the mid 60's to the mid 90's. Unfortunately, she contracted a kidney disease in 1996 and died following an unsuccessful kidney transplant. But, one of the famous writings she penned after learning that she was sick was "If I Had My Life To Live Over." In this piece (which you can find on Google, by the way), she voices some of the things that probably all of us have done at one time or another, but maybe lived to regret? She closed with this:
"But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute... look at it and really see it ... live it...and never give it back."
Well, that's why I want to thank Erma Bombeck! Because yesterday I think I seized every minute, looked at it, really saw it, lived it, and I'm never giving it back! Thank you, Katie! Thank you, Southwest Airlines! Thank you, Andy! Thank you, Nathan! And thank you, Phoebe, for meeting us in St. Louis!
It was CRAZY from the beginning! The four of us met at 8 a.m. at Andy's apartment. We then drove to Love Field (where Katie works and has fantastic "privileges" as a Southwest Airlines employee for non-rev travel), parked the car, and caught a direct flight to St. Louis. Now I travel for a living (not really, but there are times when it seems like it!). It was so weird for me to not have anything but a newspaper with me on the flight! No briefcase, no laptop, no concerns about the meeting I was about to attend, etc. Yes!
When we landed in St. Louis, we bought day passes on their Metro Rail and embarked on our St. Louis adventure. First stop? My old stomping grounds - University City, Missouri! Yes! When I graduated from college, this is where I lived and worked. We went to one of the places I remembered from the late 70's for lunch - Blueberry Hill - and my niece, Phoebe, met us there! Yes! Did I tell you that we were all wearing matching t-shirts (Andy's idea, sort of) - the Ellwood Pancake Breakfast ones we had printed last year for our 30th annual New Year's Day feed? Phoebe got one, too. It was great!
After lunch we walked a mile or so to the next train stop and just missed that train heading to the St. Louis Arch. Oh well. Another one was coming in 15-20 minutes. But, that meant that our tickets to the 1:30 p.m. boat cruise would be compromised. Rats! So, thanks again to my resourceful daughter, Katie, we called and got the tickets changed to the 3:00 p.m. cruise on the Tom Sawyer instead. Yes!
When we got to the Arch, there were over 200 people there having a pillow fight! Ha. It was CRAZY! We went to the river, the 1840's cathedral there, and just lounged around awhile enjoying the sweetness of the moment under the Arch. Then we got on the boat and took a one-hour cruise on the Mississippi. I got really sunburned! I loved every minute of it.
Did I tell you that our flight back was at 4:40 p.m. and we didn't step off the boat until 4 o'clock? Not to worry. Once again, my sweet daughter, Katie, got on her cell phone and determined that we could probably go stand-by on the 5:15 flight. We were still about 45 minutes from the airport.
After a great train ride with a stop to part ways with Phoebe and say good-bye, after which she called out, "See you next weekend?" (since she had been to Texas the weekend before for the wedding!), we headed for the airport.
Now, I mean to tell you, I have made mad dashes to catch planes in my lifetime, but none quite as CRAZY as this one. We stepped off the train at 5 o'clock and RAN!!! We made the 5:15 flight by continuing to run and by not putting our shoes on after going through Security, and were taxi-ing out to the runway at 5:13 p.m. Yes!
Is that crazy or what? Did we have a great time? You bet. Did it cost me a Saturday working in the yard and around the house? Yeah. Was it worth it? Heck, yeah!
Thank You, Erma Bombeck (and Katie, too!). I am so grateful to God for spontaneity and fun with family! If I had my life to live over, I'd do it all again. You can do yardwork, exercise, lose weight, and things around the house anytime. But, a CRAZY trip to St. Louis for the day may only come along once in your life...
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Seven Reasons for JOY!
This weekend my immediate family experienced a "first" - the marriage of our son, Peter, to the lovely Kristen. It was a FANTASTIC experience for all of us and this morning I am still absolutely filled with JOY!
Since it is JOY that is overflowing in my mind and soul today, I thought it would be a great time to express the reasons for JOY in this blog. I have seven. I'm sure I'll think of a few more as the day goes on, but this is what I came up with at 8 a.m.
Reason Number One - To see Peter's face and observe his excitement as his radiant bride came down that aisle, all I could think of was JOY! To see Kristen as she approached Peter with loving parents on either side and tears flowing down her smiling face, all I could think of was JOY! A man and a woman that prepared/ready/willing to commit themselves totally to one another and the Lord they serve is the best reason for JOY!
Reason Number Two - No matter where you are or where you've been or what mistakes you've made, a wedding signals hope for a fresh start and new beginnings. That's why I love going to weddings with my sweet wife, Ellen. Each time I do, it causes me to appreciate her even more and to recommit to loving her for the rest of my life. That's another reason for JOY!
Reason Number Three - How incredible is it that so many family members from far and wide would all gather together in one place just to experience a short 25 minute ceremony at a church? But, a wedding is so much more than that! A wedding is family, and a wedding basically creates a new family. Call me old-fashioned, but family is what really brings massive amounts of JOY!
Reason Number Four - Another incredible thing about a wedding is how willing your friends and family are to help with the arrangements and celebrate the experience with you! As we drove away from the parking lot of the country club where the reception was held I couldn't help but thank God for all of the incredible friends who did so much to make it all possible for all of us to experience so much JOY!
Reason Number Five - For months now, Ellen and I have had to talk and plan and wrestle with the details of our part in this wedding. But, in so doing, we have experienced a great deal of "connected" time with each other, and with Peter and Kristen, and with so many others. These times have definitely enriched our lives and while they involved a lot of work and planning, I wouldn't trade them for anything! All JOY!
Reason Number Six - To witness our other three children (Andy, Katie and Nathan) leading in such marvelous ways as the wedding approached, and expressing so much love for Peter and Kristen in the process, and demonstrating so much unselfishness on their behalf, there is no better gift that children could give to a father than that. All JOY!
Reason Number Seven - I can't even believe that God has allowed me to have this much JOY! Thank you God for giving me the opportunity to be a father and to have this opportunity to experience the wedding of one of my children. Wow! I am a truly blessed man!
The most incredible thing happened as I was finishing this post. I got a text message from the newly married couple thanking us for their JOY! Now I am even more of a blessed man through all of this!
Since it is JOY that is overflowing in my mind and soul today, I thought it would be a great time to express the reasons for JOY in this blog. I have seven. I'm sure I'll think of a few more as the day goes on, but this is what I came up with at 8 a.m.
Reason Number One - To see Peter's face and observe his excitement as his radiant bride came down that aisle, all I could think of was JOY! To see Kristen as she approached Peter with loving parents on either side and tears flowing down her smiling face, all I could think of was JOY! A man and a woman that prepared/ready/willing to commit themselves totally to one another and the Lord they serve is the best reason for JOY!
Reason Number Two - No matter where you are or where you've been or what mistakes you've made, a wedding signals hope for a fresh start and new beginnings. That's why I love going to weddings with my sweet wife, Ellen. Each time I do, it causes me to appreciate her even more and to recommit to loving her for the rest of my life. That's another reason for JOY!
Reason Number Three - How incredible is it that so many family members from far and wide would all gather together in one place just to experience a short 25 minute ceremony at a church? But, a wedding is so much more than that! A wedding is family, and a wedding basically creates a new family. Call me old-fashioned, but family is what really brings massive amounts of JOY!
Reason Number Four - Another incredible thing about a wedding is how willing your friends and family are to help with the arrangements and celebrate the experience with you! As we drove away from the parking lot of the country club where the reception was held I couldn't help but thank God for all of the incredible friends who did so much to make it all possible for all of us to experience so much JOY!
Reason Number Five - For months now, Ellen and I have had to talk and plan and wrestle with the details of our part in this wedding. But, in so doing, we have experienced a great deal of "connected" time with each other, and with Peter and Kristen, and with so many others. These times have definitely enriched our lives and while they involved a lot of work and planning, I wouldn't trade them for anything! All JOY!
Reason Number Six - To witness our other three children (Andy, Katie and Nathan) leading in such marvelous ways as the wedding approached, and expressing so much love for Peter and Kristen in the process, and demonstrating so much unselfishness on their behalf, there is no better gift that children could give to a father than that. All JOY!
Reason Number Seven - I can't even believe that God has allowed me to have this much JOY! Thank you God for giving me the opportunity to be a father and to have this opportunity to experience the wedding of one of my children. Wow! I am a truly blessed man!
The most incredible thing happened as I was finishing this post. I got a text message from the newly married couple thanking us for their JOY! Now I am even more of a blessed man through all of this!
Sunday, March 22, 2009
The high cost of leadership
When you are a recognized leader of something, you can no longer be just a "Regular Joe." In the eyes of a lot of people, you can't just say whatever you want to say anymore. Everything that comes out of your mouth will be evaluated/criticized by somebody looking to you as a leader.
Just ask President Obama about this.
This past week, he chose to try to be just a "Regular Joe" on Jay Leno's show (why he would choose to do that as President of the United States is questionable?). Apparently, in the course of talking with Leno about living in the White House, the President was asked about the bowling lanes that are in the basement there? And Jay Leno asked him what his bowling score was? And Obama said he bowled something like a 129? As everyone in the audience started laughing at that pitiful score (?), the President made a very off-handed comment while laughing himself that went something like this, "Yeah, it was kind of like the Special Olympics."
Oops! Hey Mr. President, you can't say something like that now. You are the recognized leader of the United States of America. Everything you say and do is being filmed and recorded, and your life is now under a microscope. The whole world is watching! You can no longer be just a "Regular Joe" and make wise cracks like that.
Needless to say, President Obama had to quickly apologize to several people, not the least of which was the head of the Special Olympics program. And this all had to be done within hours of the gaffe, just to make it right with everyone and contain the damage caused by his words.
The high cost of leadership.
But, it's not just President Obama who has to watch what he says/does. If you are the recognized leader of something, you have to watch what you say and do, too. As much as you might want to just be a "Regular Joe," people will be evaluating (and possibly criticizing?) your every move.
I am always taken aback at my work when people say something to me that reveals that when they look at me and/or listen to what I have to say, they are thinking, "This is coming from a Senior Vice President and the Chair of the Design Council." Likewise, at my church the same thing happens and the words might be something like this, "These are the words/actions of a Life Group leader and elder of our church." Even at home, my family can sometimes be shocked when I laugh at something, enjoy a certain movie or say something that might be a little bit different than what they would normally expect from just plain ol' Dad. No more "Regular Joe" for this guy!
Am I complaining? No. Is it frustrating at times when people have much higher expectations of you than they should? Yes. Is it good to have high standards for the behavior of our leaders? Of course.
If you are a leader of something, you should set a higher bar for your behavior and be a better example of living than a lot of other people. But, leaders make mistakes and have feet of clay, too. Sometimes they are just "Regular Joe" people who have reluctantly stepped into visible leadership positions and are completely depending on the grace of God to carry them through (and not make too many mistakes!).
The high cost of leadership can be expensive for a "Regular Joe" like me.
Just ask President Obama about this.
This past week, he chose to try to be just a "Regular Joe" on Jay Leno's show (why he would choose to do that as President of the United States is questionable?). Apparently, in the course of talking with Leno about living in the White House, the President was asked about the bowling lanes that are in the basement there? And Jay Leno asked him what his bowling score was? And Obama said he bowled something like a 129? As everyone in the audience started laughing at that pitiful score (?), the President made a very off-handed comment while laughing himself that went something like this, "Yeah, it was kind of like the Special Olympics."
Oops! Hey Mr. President, you can't say something like that now. You are the recognized leader of the United States of America. Everything you say and do is being filmed and recorded, and your life is now under a microscope. The whole world is watching! You can no longer be just a "Regular Joe" and make wise cracks like that.
Needless to say, President Obama had to quickly apologize to several people, not the least of which was the head of the Special Olympics program. And this all had to be done within hours of the gaffe, just to make it right with everyone and contain the damage caused by his words.
The high cost of leadership.
But, it's not just President Obama who has to watch what he says/does. If you are the recognized leader of something, you have to watch what you say and do, too. As much as you might want to just be a "Regular Joe," people will be evaluating (and possibly criticizing?) your every move.
I am always taken aback at my work when people say something to me that reveals that when they look at me and/or listen to what I have to say, they are thinking, "This is coming from a Senior Vice President and the Chair of the Design Council." Likewise, at my church the same thing happens and the words might be something like this, "These are the words/actions of a Life Group leader and elder of our church." Even at home, my family can sometimes be shocked when I laugh at something, enjoy a certain movie or say something that might be a little bit different than what they would normally expect from just plain ol' Dad. No more "Regular Joe" for this guy!
Am I complaining? No. Is it frustrating at times when people have much higher expectations of you than they should? Yes. Is it good to have high standards for the behavior of our leaders? Of course.
If you are a leader of something, you should set a higher bar for your behavior and be a better example of living than a lot of other people. But, leaders make mistakes and have feet of clay, too. Sometimes they are just "Regular Joe" people who have reluctantly stepped into visible leadership positions and are completely depending on the grace of God to carry them through (and not make too many mistakes!).
The high cost of leadership can be expensive for a "Regular Joe" like me.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Aspiring to be a "Third Brother"
Unfortunately for me, I am the only boy in my family of origin (except for my Dad, of course). I have two wonderful, older sisters, but no brothers (even though I did have a foreign exchange student brother from Norway live with me for a year in 1971-72). Fortunately for me, God blessed Ellen and me with three sons (and a terrific daughter, too). Andy, Peter and Nathan have experienced all the beneficial aspects of "brotherhood," including the great time they had together this past weekend for Peter's bachelor party in advance of his marriage to Kristen on March 28th.
Brothers are something special. I've seen it in my son's lives. But, today I am aspiring to be a Third Brother. What is that you say? Let me explain.
One of the ways I keep up on current affairs is to read World magazine - my favorite! That every-other-week publication has several excellent writers. One of the best is Marvin Olasky. He usually has something really relevant and thought-provoking to say. His writing usually causes me to think extra hard from a Christian world view about what's really happening in the world around us. He really hit the nail on the head in the February 28, 2009 issue with his article entitled "Prodigal Sons." (See link below.)
http://www.worldmag.com/articles/15022
In this article he suggests that we should aspire to be a Third Brother, that is as opposed to the other two brothers in the biblical story Jesus told about the Prodigal Son.
I am commiting today to try to think/act/speak like a Third Brother should. In these confusing times when there is so much as Christians that we could react negatively to and/or get really angry/disheartened about, a Third Brother would take a different path than that and be more concerned about changing people's hearts, not necessarily their actions, their words, their politics, their religion, or their views.
Read the article yourself and then think about it. Do you aspire to be a Third Brother?
Brothers are something special. I've seen it in my son's lives. But, today I am aspiring to be a Third Brother. What is that you say? Let me explain.
One of the ways I keep up on current affairs is to read World magazine - my favorite! That every-other-week publication has several excellent writers. One of the best is Marvin Olasky. He usually has something really relevant and thought-provoking to say. His writing usually causes me to think extra hard from a Christian world view about what's really happening in the world around us. He really hit the nail on the head in the February 28, 2009 issue with his article entitled "Prodigal Sons." (See link below.)
http://www.worldmag.com/articles/15022
In this article he suggests that we should aspire to be a Third Brother, that is as opposed to the other two brothers in the biblical story Jesus told about the Prodigal Son.
I am commiting today to try to think/act/speak like a Third Brother should. In these confusing times when there is so much as Christians that we could react negatively to and/or get really angry/disheartened about, a Third Brother would take a different path than that and be more concerned about changing people's hearts, not necessarily their actions, their words, their politics, their religion, or their views.
Read the article yourself and then think about it. Do you aspire to be a Third Brother?
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Whatever happened to gratefulness?
Last week, we received the sweetest hand-written thank you note from a very special person in our lives. In it this sweet person actually expressed a lot of heartfelt gratefulness for something we had done - gifts given. How nice! Tonight I will need to sit down and write a couple of hand-written thank you notes to special people who showed me great kindness/love and generous hospitality this past weekend when I was in Arizona. I am so grateful for what they all did to make my visit/stay nice and I don't want to take that all for granted. But, I actually started rationalizing in my head the following thoughts: "Do I really need to write a note? Didn't I thank them enough in person already?"
Whatever happened to gratefulness in our culture/society? Why did I even think that I could get away with not formally thanking someone for kindnesses shown/gifts given?
In light of the current situation we find ourselves in as the United States of America, I am wondering if the biggest problem we have as a nation isn't the fact that we have somewhat forgotten our manners and how to be grateful? We have been blessed beyond imagination as a people, and yet it seems like all we hear these days are complaints and lots of people shouting "What about me? What are you going to do for me?"
What if everyone who read this post decided to start thanking God (and each other, as appropriate) for all the ways we have been blessed and/or assisted in each other's richness/well-being? What if our first impulse at the start of each day (and throughout the course of each day) was to continually thank God and the people in our lives versus just accept blessing upon blessing without ever thanking the One who has given so much? What if the most common words out of our mouths (and written down) were words of gratefulness? Doesn't it seem to you that a lot of our unhealthy self-absorption and fussing over silly issues would somewhat melt away if we were more concerned with who we could thank versus who we should complain to?
What about you? When was the last time you thanked God for your life and each breath and hope for tomorrow and your very existence? When was the last time you actually took the time to write a hand-written note to people in your life thanking them for a gift or some other kindness they bestowed on you?
Whatever happened to gratefulness? Let's make a decision today to bring gratefulness back to our daily routine. Let's set the bar higher than those around us by always being grateful and then watch to see how attitudes and outlooks about life get transformed when we model gratefulness (versus self-absorption and complaining). Give it a try!
Thanks for reading this post! I am grateful for the freedom to be able to do this!
Whatever happened to gratefulness in our culture/society? Why did I even think that I could get away with not formally thanking someone for kindnesses shown/gifts given?
In light of the current situation we find ourselves in as the United States of America, I am wondering if the biggest problem we have as a nation isn't the fact that we have somewhat forgotten our manners and how to be grateful? We have been blessed beyond imagination as a people, and yet it seems like all we hear these days are complaints and lots of people shouting "What about me? What are you going to do for me?"
What if everyone who read this post decided to start thanking God (and each other, as appropriate) for all the ways we have been blessed and/or assisted in each other's richness/well-being? What if our first impulse at the start of each day (and throughout the course of each day) was to continually thank God and the people in our lives versus just accept blessing upon blessing without ever thanking the One who has given so much? What if the most common words out of our mouths (and written down) were words of gratefulness? Doesn't it seem to you that a lot of our unhealthy self-absorption and fussing over silly issues would somewhat melt away if we were more concerned with who we could thank versus who we should complain to?
What about you? When was the last time you thanked God for your life and each breath and hope for tomorrow and your very existence? When was the last time you actually took the time to write a hand-written note to people in your life thanking them for a gift or some other kindness they bestowed on you?
Whatever happened to gratefulness? Let's make a decision today to bring gratefulness back to our daily routine. Let's set the bar higher than those around us by always being grateful and then watch to see how attitudes and outlooks about life get transformed when we model gratefulness (versus self-absorption and complaining). Give it a try!
Thanks for reading this post! I am grateful for the freedom to be able to do this!
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